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The shop class tool box: Happy Father’s Day, Dad!

I’m sure you have all received them if you have been a parent for any length of time. When they are just old enough to go to Sunday School or even in daycare, one of the first things your little one makes for you is their hand print. Many of you have a picture of that in your head right now and could go to a box or a plastic storage tub and pull out Johnny or Susie’s classic piece of art.

They graduated over the years to nicer items such as clay ash trays, wooden tie and belt holders, maybe a pencil holder or a shelf. Homemade gifts from your children, it truly doesn’t get any better than that!

I remember, in particular, one of My Three Sons brought home his first attempt at wood crafts. (For this post, the crafter shall remain nameless. We will let them decide if they want to take ownership or not.) The fact that he was even taking a class of this sort must have been a requirement; he was not one to sit around thinking of things he could make with his hands.

Whether this was a Father’s Day gift or not I do not recall but I do remember him bringing it home and having that dejected look of “This is the best I can do”, when in reality it was sturdy, heavy and not too crooked at all! It had been stained super dark and he had made it with his own hands.

Now, to wrap it for Father’s Day.

The Sweetheart has received tons of gifts over the last 42 years of marriage and 40 of being a father. Some he still has, like the toolbox, others didn’t make it into a storage tub for one of our many moves. He learned from the time they were old enough to stand there with their arms outstretched, presenting their gift, that it was the biggest deal in the world to them and he had better act like it was to him, too.

And it was.

That toolbox was filled immediately and to this day it still has hammers, screwdrivers, nails and other important go-to’s for any household. It served a purpose then and even now, years later.

This Father’s Day, it is a sturdy and strong reminder of us bringing our gifts to our Good, Good Father, Jesus Christ.

Sometimes our gift giving, our prayer time, turns into our give me time. Did you know that the Hebrew word for prayer, tefillah, means to self-evaulate? To the Jewish people, prayer was not a time to just ask God for things, they truly examined themselves! This meant admitting their actions, behaviors and attitudes and comparing them with their holy God. Standing in His presence will cause you to look at your heart!

To us, as 21st century Christians, the word pray means to ask or maybe even plead. We lay out a list of things we need or want God to do and then start begging Him to reply. But what if we evaluated our hearts first? What if we checked our motives first? What if we prayed, “Not my will but thine be done” and just offered our toolbox, our lives, as a living sacrifice?

Do you bring Him praise, adoration, worship and glory with your prayers or are they all filled with “I need, I want and please hurry!” He hears you regardless of how you pray, or what you say, but He is most pleased when it is a sacrificial giving of the heart. When you understand that all things are in His control anyway and that surrender is the ultimate act of worship, you then acknowledge that He alone is able and He alone is worthy and your giving takes on an entirely different meaning…and approach.

Imagine yourself bringing your tool box to your heavenly Father. It’s a part of you, a difficult part, but you want to give it back to Him as a gift of surrender and humility. It’s sort of like this, “Lord, this is just for You, I’m giving you all of my difficult attitudes, all of my heartaches, confusion, misunderstandings. Could you help me with these things and fill up that toolbox with more of You so that I might take those tools and be a representative of You to a lost, dying and hurting world?”

He will do that. He will take the broken and make it whole, pliable and workable in the Kingdom. Giving gifts to your good, good Father, yielding in total surrender and then taking what He gives you as tools to help others…that completes that perfect circle. He’s good like that.

This Father’s Day, don’t forget to tell that influential man in your life what he means to you. Love on those that you value so much and don’t forget to reach out to others who might not hear the words, “I appreciate you.”

Happy Father’s Day to The Sweetheart, such a rock to me for over 40 years. I love you and thank you for being such a good, good father to My Three Sons, for loving our daughters-in-law and adoring our precious grandbabies and spoiling ME and providing for us all so well.

Happy Father’s Day!!

Beauty weeps the brave: The story of The SS Dorchester

And they who for their country die shall fill an honored grave, for glory lights the soldier’s tomb, and beauty weeps the brave. ~ Joseph Rodman Drake

Memorial Day means different things to different people. Some do not realize it is a day to honor those that have given their lives in defense of our country. We come together with family and friends and celebrate a long weekend with camping, cookouts, mini-vacay’s and tons of food and all of that is good! (Well, most of it is good, some of it we want to forget). But relaxing is a good thing and a great stress reliever. There is nothing wrong with the cookouts, picnics and apple pie.

But can we be reminded of those that have bought us this freedom with their very own lives? Let me bring to your memory, or introduce you afresh, to some that literally gave all not too long ago that we might enjoy this beautiful holiday as a free people.

Beauty weeps the Brave: The story of The SS Dorchester

The SS Dorchester was a U.S. passenger ship that launched officially March 20, 1926. It was a luxury liner that carried passengers between Miami, Jacksonville, Savannah, Norfok, Baltimore, Philadelphia, and Boston. When I say luxury, for a ship that was built almost 100 years ago, it was quite different than those of today but check this out: They had electric fans and telephones in every room and they were even equipped to send wireless messages! Not quite as high tech as Facetime and text messaging but hey, for a century ago it was pretty fancy.

When the United States entered WWII, the SS Dorchester, like most passenger ships, was converted to carry troops. More lifeboats and life jackets were added, and some necessary artillery, such as four 20mm guns, one 3-inch 50-caliber gun (fore), and one 4-inch 50-caliber gun (aft). When she was relaunched on January 24, 1942, she was capable of carrying 906 passengers and crew. Quite a jump from the 350 or so she normally carried as a luxury liner.

On January 22, 1943, she sat sail for Greenland with troops for replacement, carrying 902 total passengers. Since it was possible that they could be attacked at any moment by the Germans, the captain insisted that everyone was to keep their life vests on at all times, even while sleeping. That was difficult to do as the vests were so bulky and many of the troops did not comply.

On February 2, the crew detected a submarine but couldn’t pinpoint its position. They were only 150 miles from Greenland and by morning they would have air cover from the American base. Everyone was edgy and found it almost impossible to sleep. Trying to help comfort the passengers were four chaplains on board: Lt. George L. Fox, a Methodist; Lt. Alexander D. Goode, who was Jewish; Lt. John P. Washington, Catholic; and Lt. Clark V. Poling, Reformed.  The four walked through the ship trying to calm and reassure everyone that morning would soon come and they even passed out soda crackers for those with nervous stomachs and seasickness.

Unfortunately, at around 1 a.m. on February 3, a torpedo struck, hitting the boiler room and panic ensued. The fierce explosion spewed clouds of steam and ammonia gas and thrust the ship into darkness. Fourteen lifeboats were available on board but in the panic only two were actually launched into the water. Many were still trapped below but those who made it to the top were so dazed and confused they didn’t know what to do and most had left their life jackets in their bunks.

Enter the chaplains, who were doing their best to hurry the men toward the lifeboats and urging them to abandon the ship which was sinking fast. They found a locker of life jackets and passed those out and when they ran out, the four men of God took off their own life jackets and gave those away.

In less than 20 minutes, the SS Dorchester was sinking to be seen no more. Only 230 of the 903 passengers were rescued.  Hundreds perished in the frigid water. As for those that survived,  many survivors told the same story of the four chaplains: “As I swam away from the ship, I looked back. The flares had lighted everything. The bow came up high and she slid under. The last thing I saw, the Four Chaplains were up there praying for the safety of the men. They had done everything they could. I did not see them again. They themselves did not have a chance without their life jackets.” Survivor Grady Clark

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President Ronald Reagan, once said,

Those four men, and thousands upon thousands of others acted as if they were unafraid and have literally given their lives in times of war for our country and our freedoms that we cherish.  Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:13 ESV. We can never repay them, or their families, for giving the ultimate sacrifice but we can remember them and honor them on their special day, Memorial Day.

President Bill Clinton set aside 3:00 p.m. on Memorial Day as a National Moment of Remembrance. In 2000, he asked, “…Americans everywhere, to pause for one minute at 3:00 p.m. (local time) on Memorial Day, to remember and reflect on the sacrifices made by so many to provide freedom for all.”

Records tell us that since 1775, 1.8 million have given their lives for our country. 1.8 million!

As the Church, we mourn with those who mourn and weep with those who weep. If you have lost a mother, father, sister, brother, grandparent, husband, wife, son or daughter in combat, we pray for you today that God will comfort you in your great loss. And we salute the fallen in great tribute for the ultimate sacrifice they gave for those that remain and this great country that they served.

Salute. Celebrate, yes, remember, most definitely. Have a blessed Memorial Day.

Phone calls, flowers and ropes on Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day to all of our wonderful mothers! If your mother is not living, may you be blessed with wonderful memories of her today. If you have not been able to be a mother, may God surround you with His love and comfort and may you be able to trust Him that He is sovereign and faithful. If your mother wasn’t what you considered ideal and you don’t see reason to honor her today, if Mother’s Day is just plain difficult for you, I pray you may be able to be thankful that your Mother chose life and that you now have a chance to make a difference in the life of another. Blessings to you all on this wonderful day. You can read some of my other more humorous Mother’s Day posts here, here and here!

Phone calls, flowers and ropes on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day has always been a favorite here in the United States. They say over 122 million will take the time to call their mother today. I will wait for you if you haven’t called your mother yet. Go ahead, it will make her day!

The average spent on Mom today is $168. That seemed extremely high to me and very extravagant for a holiday that was meant to just say, “Thank you.”

Yesterday, I received the most wonderful gift I may have ever gotten for Mother’s Day. Letters from My Three Sons, my sweet DIL, Rachel, and The Sweetheart. Post dated to open one a month for an entire year. Tears!! I will open thefamily first one today. Genius. Thank you to the best kids on the planet!

Around the world, Mother’s Day is celebrated much the same way we do here in the States; flowers, candy, a day off from chores, maybe dinner in a restaurant.

In Ethiopia, Mother’s Day is celebrated for three days! The three-day feast, Antrosht, is celebrated by making hash. The girls bring spices, vegetables, cheese and butter and the boys bring a lamb or a bull. The mother then serves the hash and a celebration takes place afterward where the mothers and daughters anoint themselves using butter on their faces and chests. The men sing songs to honor the family. Hmmm…

Men in Australia typically wear a chrysanthemum in their lapels to honor their mothers. This flower is chosen because it ends in “mum” which is their chosen name for the one who brought them into the world!

If you think your Mother’s Day is dull, you could celebrate as they do supposedly, in Serbia. They also need three days to honor their mother in the month of December. They celebrate Children’s Day and Father’s Day all back to back on consecutive Sundays. But here is where it truly differs from other celebrations! On Children’s Day, the children are tied up with rope and have to say they will behave before they can be untied!

Then on Mother’s Day, it is the mother’s turn to be wound around and around with the rope and she must stay all tied up until she gives treats and gifts to the children. How she is supposed to do this while tied up is a mystery to me but hey, she is a mom! Finally, on Father’s Day, you guessed it, Dad gets to take a turn. He must stay bound with the ropes until he gives the family their Christmas gifts and then everyone can celebrate.

As a daughter I have seen 50+ Mother’s Days come and go. As a Mother, this is my 35th year of celebrating. As a grandmother, it is my very first. My son and DIL experienced infertility for over ten years before we received this little miracle, who is just five weeks old, Norah Jayne. You can read their story here.

While it has taken a few years for me to join the grandparents club, trust me, I feel as if I belong here. Watching Norah at times is like going back 25+ years and watching my own all over again. It seems as if I can see each one of My Three Sons in her tiny face. And yet, she is her own little person, she will have her own ideas, her own desires and her own dreams. This isn’t the same world that her daddy grew up in and it will take a love for God and a relationship with Him to weather the storms that life will send her way.

If I could tell Norah one thing it would be to always honor your parents. They will make mistakes but will forever want what is best for you and strive to make sure you are loved, safe and cared for.

Today, if your mother is living, you are blessed to still have her and be able to let her know you appreciate her. To my own mother, Sandy, I thank you for everything you have done for me and my family over the years. We could count on you then and we can count on you now. Thank you for being a great mother.

To my daughter-in-law, Rachel, on her first Mother’s Day, a day that has typically been so difficult is now wonderfully anticipated. It’s taken a long time to get here but God’s timing is always perfect. May you enjoy every moment and give thanks to the One who has blessed us all with such a miracle.

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Did I mention the country of India? Most of the citizens of this country aren’t really aware of a formal Mother’s Day for one interesting reason: They strongly feel that ONE DAY isn’t sufficient to celebrate the love of a mother.

I would agree.

Happy Mother’s Day!

nana