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Wife to The Sweetheart, Mom to the Fantastic Six, Nana to six of the cutest littles on the planet, Author, The Daniel Fast, A Devotional. UPCI ministers.

Forgiven much but I can’t forgive…


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“To forgive is to set the prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~ Lewis B. Smedes

“Then Peter came to Him (Jesus) and asked, ‘Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?’ ‘No, not seven times.’ Jesus replied, ‘but seventy times seven!’” Matthew 18:21, 22 NLT.
The beginning of the 18th chapter starts out with the disciples asking Jesus, “Who is greatest in the Kingdom?”  So Peter has definitely been listening as the Master has been teaching and he realizes that if you are going to be anything or anybody in the Kingdom you are going to have to be able to forgive.
Peter has been around a while. So when He asks the Lord how many times he should forgive his brother, he knew the number seven was God’s number. It represents the divine number of completion or perfection. God finished creating the earth in seven days.   “On the seventh day God had finished his work of creation, so he rested from all his work. And God blessed the seventh day and declared it holy, because it was the day when he rested from all his work of creation.” Genesis 2:2, 3 NLT.
And I do not believe Jesus was making light of Peter’s question when He responded with a mathematical impossibility! Jesus replied with another number containing seven, the number seventy. The number seventy is also the number that symbolizes our life span on this earth, according to Psalm 90:10, “The days of our lives are seventy years…” NIV.
Jesus told Peter  that we are to forgive those that sin against us, or hurt us, as long as we live! Not as long as we feel like it. Not until the feeling passes or we get over it. But we are to keep forgiving, even if they keep hurting us over and over again, as long as we are alive on this earth. It really has nothing to do with the other person; but it has everything to do with us.
Once we realize that it is a command, and that it is something we must be doing pretty much the rest of our lives, we had better adjust the matter of the heart. If the heart isn’t right we won’t be able to forgive. “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:31, 32. NLT.

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

Forgive them even if they are not sorry. You don’t even forgive because they deserve it. We didn’t deserve it either. But you deserve peace. Many times they will not reciprocate. Many times they will not even care. Forgive anyway. It is simply impossible to experience the peace of God if we have not forgiven those who have hurt us.
“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians 3:13 NLT.
Real forgiveness isn’t filled with expectations that the other person is going to undergo some miraculous change, or send a dozen long-stemmed, red roses and apologize. All you have to do is the forgiving. Love them, release them, and let it go.

[Tweet “Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea…until they have something to forgive. ~ C.S. Lewis”]

After Jesus told Peter he was to forgive seventy times seven, He went on to tell the story of Forgiven Much, But I Can’t Forgive. In my own words, He says the Kingdom of Heaven can be compared to a King who wanted to collect his accounts from all of those servants who had borrowed money from him. One of the debtors, who owed him millions of dollars, couldn’t pay, so the king ordered that he and all of his family be sold to pay the debt. But the man fell down and begged him to be patient with him and he promised to pay it all. So the king had mercy and released him and forgave him the debt and let him go!
But when that forgiven man left the king, he went to a fellow servant, who owed him just a few thousand dollars, and he grabbed him by the throat and demanded that he pay him what he owed immediately. His friend fell down at his feet and begged for more time to come up with the money but no way would the forgiven man have any leniency on him and he had him arrested and put in prison until he could pay.

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Some of the other servants had seen all that had happened and went and told the king because they were so upset. “Then the king called in the man that he had forgiven and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?’ Then the angry king sent the man to prison to be tortured until he had paid his entire debt. That’s what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart. Matthew 18:32-35. NLT.
[Tweet “When you truly forgive, you can’t continually make them pay for past mistakes. “]
“ Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant just as I had mercy on you?”
Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:37, 38 NLT.
Don’t let that bitterness take hold in your heart, it will literally grow and take root until it chokes the life out of you!

God is the Judge, let Him take care of who is right and who is wrong.

“Dear friends, never take revenge. For the Scriptures say, ‘I will take revenge; I will pay them back,’ says the Lord.” Romans 12:19 NLT.
You cannot allow pride to stand in the way of forgiveness becoming a vitally important part of your Christian walk. Nor can you afford for it to become so common that it is a casual byline much as in the way we use the word love.  We also use that same word for many other things. We love chocolate, football, and puppies. We say,  “Love ya, man!” And, “I’m so in love with that dress!” We can’t treat forgiveness in the same manner. When we do take the time to forgive we must mean it and take it in all seriousness. We need to be specific and apologize sincerely, asking for forgiveness.
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:14, 15. NLT.
God is always pleased when we honor His Word, and His Word is pretty to the point on this one. If we don’t forgive our brother, He will not forgive us; and THAT is pretty plain.

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Let it go!

Why is letting go so hard to do? I think it is partly because we have a need to nurture. We want to fix things and put it all back together again.

Other times we are afraid. If we don’t try to fix it, who will? We want to be in control, oh my, we have to be in control!

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I have been so guilty of this lately. I say I am praying about it and giving it to God and yet I pick it right back up and lament over it again and again. Am I thinking of myself or what God wants? Am I willing to let it go if it is for the Kingdom or am I too selfish and fight to keep it for myself? Do I just want to hurry through a difficult situation because it is just that…too difficult?

At times when exhaustion has set in, we have just worn ourselves to a frazzle and can barely hold on, but yet we just can’t quite let go. The enemy loves it when we are in that situation. He thinks he has us! We have so much pent up anxiety we don’t know what to do! That is when the Lord is waiting, patiently, wooing us to let it go!  “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7 NIV

Of course there are some that refuse to release because they enjoy having something to talk about. The drama is their mama! They love to air it on social media and their day is not complete unless there is a “Woe is me!” in there somewhere.

God is not pleased when our days and weeks are filled with negativity. We bring ourselves down and others around us! Not only that, but our friends, coworkers and family never know what to expect from us. One minute we are up and the next minute we are biting their heads off! Yet we are their Christian example.

Our Facebook and Twitter status reads like a yo-yo, up one minute and down the next. People never know where we truly stand because we don’t know ourselves!

[Tweet “Little annoyances that we let consume us then come to define us.”]

We become known as Debbie or Donny Downer and no one wants to be around us. We need to let those little things go.

And then the ultimate… forgiveness. We all know the Bible says if we do not forgive we cannot be forgiven. (Yes, it really does say that.) “But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.” Mark 11:26.  So why do we hold on to such pain? Because of that old sinful nature within us. Religion won’t get it; this is why we must have RELATIONSHIP!

We must keep that old man under subjection daily. It is so much better to let go of things that would build up and take root in our hearts and cause even more pain if we would allow them to stay and grow. It’s just not worth it.

You will have less stress in your life, much better physical and mental health if you forgive and forget. “Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.” Proverbs 17:9 NLT.

You can start to heal when you let go of hurts from your past and forgive those who have harmed you and then forgive yourself for your mistakes.

Time is short. Revenge is not ours to give and neither is judgment.

And that difficult situation you find yourself in right now? There could be a greater miracle ahead if you let God take you THROUGH this season. If not a miracle then I promise you He will change you, mold you and create new strengths in you because of your trial. He knows The End, He wrote the last chapter!

Choose peace.

Faith Journey goes to Malta!

Faith Journey 2015       We are going to Malta!

It is with great excitement that I share with you the announcement that our Faith Journey destination for 2015 is the nation of Malta! I will be boarding a plane with The Sweetheart in two short weeks! We are honored to be invited to this beautiful and historic island by Missionaries Kirby and Mary Parker. Tentatively, our plans are to minister and teach, as well as to provide leadership training. We will depart on Thursday, April 30 and return on Sunday, May 24. We look forward to sharing some great reports during our time in Malta.
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About Malta…

As you can see from the photo above, Malta is an island, South of Sicily and Italy, and North of Africa. It’s relatively small size, (122 square miles) and population (approx. 450,000) make it one of the world’s most densely populated countries. Malta gained its independence in 1964 from Great Britain after a long history of being occupied by many different nations. In 1974 they became a republic.

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Malta is known for a long Christian legacy which includes the Biblical historic site where the Apostle Paul was shipwrecked. Known at the time as Melita, this is where Paul was infamously bitten by the viper that struck out from the fire when Paul was throwing a bundle of sticks on it. History records that Paul spent three months on the island on his way to Rome. While there, he was known for curing the sick, including the father of Publius, the chief man of the island. It was Paul who was responsible for opening this country up to Christianity.

f18acff1-6652-49e8-a302-99b9c84d300dWe are privileged to be staying with Missionaries Kirby and Mary Parker, UPCI Global Missionaries. They were appointed to the island country in 2000 and arrived on the field with their daughter, Rebecca, in May, 2002. 

The Parkers have started one church in Malta where they also hold home fellowship groups in several key locations. They study the Maltese language and also make regular contacts on the neighboring island of Gozo.This part of the world brings opportunity to minister to many different nationalities including the Maltese, Chinese, Filipino, Bulgarian and even American nationals.

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First of all, we want to say a heartfelt thank you to our monthly supporters. Without you, this trip and others like it would be impossible for us. You are making an impact around the globe through your sacrifice. We take that responsibility seriously. Travel such as this is very costly, as you can imagine. If you would like to partner with us, there is a convenient link to our PayPal account right below. We appreciate every sacrifice that makes this journey of faith possible!

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